Everything that happens to us happens with purpose, and sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in a cage of fear and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat these situations as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self empowerment and success.
Have you seen the movie Patch Adams? It’s one great film that will help you empower yourself. Hunter “Patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to
seek medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meet different kinds of people, and especially physically and mentally ill people such as catatonics, schizophrenics, and so on.
Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he had to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he had gone through, he still wanted to become a doctor. He chose to carry a positive attitude that brought himself empowerment and success. He not only empowered himself, he empowered everyone he came into contact with. Did he succeed? He became one of the best doctors his country has ever known.
So, when does self empowerment become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips:
Don’t feel stupid or doomed forever just because you made a mistake or “failed” at something. See how your experience is a lesson to learn from. Everything has a silver lining—no exceptions.
Don’t expect massive changes overnight. Self empowerment is a process of taking lots of small steps that ultimately add up to something amazingly beautiful and profound
It comes from self-confidence, self appreciation and self confidence
Self empowerment doesn’t try to make you an exact replica of your idols or role models. Self empowerment is the process by which you dissolve all of the false ideas you’ve adopted over the years, and you learn to see yourself for the amazing person you already are.
We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘overnight success’. Be grateful for every moment of your life which has brought you to this moment here and now. You have probably heard the classic quote, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our heart and mind to a path of self empowerment, we increase our chances of happiness, success, and lasting inner peace.
When all of our doubts, fears and insecurities get our attention, we usually come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us – when in reality, the fact is, most people are just as scared as us, if not more scared.
For example, imagine you notice a very attractive person sitting alone at a social gathering and you might think to yourself, “That person looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read through that person’s transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that person is thinking “Are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t people find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We might look at a young business entrepreneur and think “He has everything! He couldn’t ask for anything else.” What you don’t know is that each day, he stares at himself at the mirror and murmurs to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… sometimes I wonder if my parents really love me.”
Isn’t it ironic?
We look at other people, envy them for seeming so perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and think the same thing! The people we are most insecure about are the same people who are insecure about us. When we suffer from low self confidence, lack of self- confidence, we lose hope in self empowerment because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you may notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, and you – of all people, is the last to know.
I heard a story about a man who never gets tired of talking, and in most conversations, he is the only one who seems to be interested in the things he has to say. So all of his other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever he’s around, and he doesn’t notice how he has become socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in his environment.
One key to self empowerment is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with about the sensitive topics you
want to discuss. Ask questions like “Are there ways in which you think I am ill- mannered?”, “Do I often sound so argumentative?” “Do I talk too loud?” “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when we’re together?” Those are a few examples, but most likely you have your own questions you would like feedback about.
Be sure to encourage your friend to give you honest, candid responses, and assure him that your goal is self empowerment. Lend your ears for comments and criticisms and be sure not to respond
defensively with answers like “That’s just the way I am!” or “I guess you really don’t know me all that well.” Open up your mind and heart as well to receive these gifts from your friend. You may also offer to provide your friend with constructive criticism, but never impose such criticisms without her approval first.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough! In order to love others, you must love yourself too.
Remember, you cannot give something that you do not already have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to empower themselves, let them see that you are a living example of self empowerment. Self empowerment enables us to inspire other people, who then become empowered and inspire even more people.
It’s sort of like that movie, “ Pay It Forward ,” where one 12 year old kid helps just three people and tells them to pay it forward. By the end of the movie, people all around the world are paying it forward.
It only takes one person to start a worldwide movement. Gandhi did it. You can too.
Stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate being. Forget the repetitive thoughts of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self empowerment. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others because the only thing we have in this life is ourselves.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect from the society perspective (although we are all perfect in “God’s” eyes). We often wish we had better things,
better features, better body parts, etc. But life does not need to be “perfect” for people to be happy about themselves.
Self empowerment and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to empower ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.